This is a question I ask myself and at first I thought it was coming from my ego not my heart. I was thinking, “Hey Angelo, just because you are spiritual and your life has seemed to become more amazing because of it, you are being foolish thinking that this is how everyone should be”. However, if you investigate this topic from a neutral perspective you will see that YES, IT IS indeed harmful to not be. Why? Well, for one thing Spirituality adds meaning to life. When a Human being has a “reason” for being here it is then that he is most driven from the depths of his Soul. Spirituality makes you participate and become aware of every single thing you are doing. This may lead to constructive conclusions on how to better your life. Instead of stagnation and not doing anything to prevent that stagnation, you gain clarity and energy for your Dreams and Visions showing you what your life should be. It is then that you start taking the proper steps for improvement. It is that connection that you are ultimately seeking.
In meditation I once had an epiphany that I could be a more loving Human. I felt it in my heart like never before. It was an experience I can’t explain but I sure felt it and wanted to express it more than ever to everyone. My life was challenging me in every way and it was showing this to me through all of my attractions to people and the responses to those attractions. My relationships seemed to be complete proof of this. It was as if every relationship was challenging me to open my heart and I didn’t understand this until my epiphany.
Now what caused me to have this epiphany? I monitored my perspectives before I developed a meditation practice and then again after a meditation practice. Before meditation I never realized how disconnected I was from my mind. I saw that I let my mind take over me instead of me taking over my mind. So, right then and there, this realization alone had allowed me to become more neutral and less aggravated when certain things would happen, such as a stranger cutting me off on the highway. I cared less about controlling people and their actions which led me to becoming a more open and nonjudgmental friend. I actually, for the first time ever, caught my self thinking, what if the person cutting you off just got fired from his job, or what if his girlfriend just dumped him, what if he had just found out his father went to the hospital? Just those few thoughts had allowed me to become more neutral and loving toward something that previously seemed to be extremely annoying. Now the ripple affect of this led to me having a more peaceful and alert driving experience, which then led to me shutting off my radio. And as I took a breather for the first time ever and found a new perspective, it’s as if I tapped into a whole new level of inner peace. I had the realization that I need to just chill out and understand that there are millions of drivers in the streets of New York City and that they obviously will not all drive the way I expect them to and wanting them to do so would be a very controlling thing to do. Naturally, with that attitude I would be setting myself up for inner stress. This made me realize that I want to let people just be people and that nobody has to respond and react the way that I want them to. That would be a pretty boring way of living anyway!
Because I started to now just let people express who they are, not who I want them to be, I found that I was able to get along with people in a whole new way. It also allowed for conversations to flow deeper because I wouldn’t interrupt with my foolish opinion anymore. I found that if I took a step back and listened to people more, it would lead me to understanding someone more, which then would lead me to being able to dig inside for a better and more loving response. This would have the end result of gaining people’s good graces and respect, which allowed room for me to then express myself even more. Now, this popped up in every area of my life: work, family, friends, etc. This is only one small example of a discovery about myself that meditation led me to have. Meditation allows you to become more sensitive and if you are not ignorantly stubborn you just may come up with awesome new ways of coping with the problems and nuances of everyday life.
You see if Spirituality was plainly observed and truly practiced by everyone, this world would be a better place. People lack the will of bettering themselves because they think that they have it all figured out. It is because of this, that they then end up limiting and shutting off the mind to new ideas and experiences. The older you get the more prone you become to making up your beliefs through these falsities you are shaping your life. It is sort of like a ripple effect. Meditation allows you to put into perspective those ideas you were never able to grasp. Once the mind becomes a bit more silent you automatically start tapping into the subconscious mind. It is always talking to you but your conscious mind can be so loud that you are ignoring it through your entire life. In meditation you tap into other dimensions and aspects of your mind and if you take the time to explore these other realms you will see that something as trivial as an anger problem can disappear in the blink of an eye. Anxiety can be transformed to constructive motivation instead of fear. Greed can turn into generosity. Confusion to clarity. Anyone you ask that has truly explored meditation can tell you that they do a lot better after holding a meditation practice. Scientific studies have been done that have allowed scientists to say, people who meditate even have healthier organs because of the decreased stress. When you are in a feel good state you have no time for stress, it does your body good. This is what happens in meditation. You reach points of Realization. Now some people may be thinking I am happy where I am and I have no anger anymore. Indeed this might be true. However, why not reach a even deeper level of peace? Isn’t that what evolution is supposed to be? Us becoming better and more effective in this material world… Right? So if you think you’ve felt love, try to feel more. If you think you’ve felt happiness then let your self feel more. If you believe you are strong open up to more strength. I must say that Meditation and holding a spiritual connection to life has allowed me to become a more focused person when it comes to my work, which has allowed me to achieve and succeed in a better way. You can utilize meditation in many ways; not just to rid emotions of anger but to bring momentum and excitement to emotions such as your will power and ability to make something happen. You can use it to bring focus to your visions and dreams. You can use it to better and deepen your sleeping patterns. Spirituality to me is simply acknowledging life and taking part with your full attention. You become a better problem solver when you are connected to the spiritual aspect of life instead of feeling like a victim. You see what is happening and you change direction. You come up with solutions and you stop being “soft” in other words. So don’t fool yourself and think that someone who is a stock broker isn’t connected to the spiritual realms of life. Some people have this naturally happening to them and just because you don’t find a stock broker singing in drum circles doesn’t mean he or she isn’t connected. We are all connected. The point is to deepen the connection and discover and strengthen your weaknesses. Acknowledge your strengths and become more connected to the self and the universe than ever before. This is about your journey and how you can enjoy it in a greater way. Being Spiritual is not about calling in the gods -which can happen for some people- it’s about making the connections and seeing with your eyes wide open. We look at our lives mostly through squinted eyes because we are scared of what life might look like with our eyes wide open. The reason you are scared is because you are stuck in your ways. I am challenging you to break free from whatever it is you need to break free from and see that working with your weaknesses will make you a stronger person. Meditation is the place in which you find some quiet and in the quiet is where you have realizations. Your meditation can perhaps be planting flowers, walking, going to the gym, aerobics, knitting, etc. Whatever it is find that quiet place and build your new life.
It is recommended to sit in a place of intended quiet to tap into higher frequencies. You have the ability to do so, so why not.. The more I let go the more room I have to Grow.